Sex In Fiction, Thoughts?

[crazyparakiss]

Fiction. Right so I'm compiling my thoughts and feels on things before I actually start, seriously, outlining my characters and my question to you guys is this:

How do you feel about sex in fiction?

Personally, I'm not against it but I'm against sex being the only key plot point. I don't particularly want to write a romance novel, on one hand but on another I want a realistic adult world with the many trials and tribulations of adult life...and that does include sex. After puberty it seems to me that most people are working their asses off for one basic need, sex. I don't want a key plot point to be sex but I want it to be a key factor in a character's personality. A sexualized creature without that being all that this character's life is about.

So I ask you good people (because you all write much better porn than I could ever dream of) how do you find the balance and how do you find a way to make porn more than what it is?

I apologize if it seems like I am being vague and still wanting answers. By now you guys know I fail at coherent thought XD

Comments

[blossomdreams.livejournal.com]

I'll see if I can add my little two cents. I don't think sex in fiction is a bad thing like others have said it can be used to move a story along, show the emotions of the characters, and add to the plot if that is what the story is about. I've read some stories where the characters have sex after meeting each other maybe three pages ago and I'm like "Alright XD" I know I like some build up to things like playing or snarking at each other. That way when the characters jump each other you know it's going to happen. I try to do that when I write even if my muse is yelling "Put them together now!" I always go "Hmm, not yet they do need to know each other" lol

I hope that makes some sense. XD

[crazyparakiss.livejournal.com]

It does, thanks hon for your input.

Yes I am not a fan of the romance genre where all they do is wind up in bed after a minute and it's ONE TRUE LOVE. *snort* Okay.

Not to say I haven't written smut for the sake of smut, I think most of my fanfiction is like that, but I was trying to feel out how people think about it in original fiction. I'll probably have a ton more questions later.