Sex In Fiction, Thoughts?

[crazyparakiss]

Fiction. Right so I'm compiling my thoughts and feels on things before I actually start, seriously, outlining my characters and my question to you guys is this:

How do you feel about sex in fiction?

Personally, I'm not against it but I'm against sex being the only key plot point. I don't particularly want to write a romance novel, on one hand but on another I want a realistic adult world with the many trials and tribulations of adult life...and that does include sex. After puberty it seems to me that most people are working their asses off for one basic need, sex. I don't want a key plot point to be sex but I want it to be a key factor in a character's personality. A sexualized creature without that being all that this character's life is about.

So I ask you good people (because you all write much better porn than I could ever dream of) how do you find the balance and how do you find a way to make porn more than what it is?

I apologize if it seems like I am being vague and still wanting answers. By now you guys know I fail at coherent thought XD

Comments

LJ Hasn't been alerting me, late reply is late

[crazyparakiss.livejournal.com]

Yeah my sex scenes are usually more about WHY the sex is happening, if that makes sense. Sex is a big part of my life, and I don't mean to say that I want sex in the book, because that's not what it'd be about, but it would be a developmental point for my character(s). Because for me sex is always the answer. Sad/mad/happy/ready to end the world ;) but maybe I'm weird and perverted, nah not me ;)

Your input is so appreciated. Thank you hon! I will definitely check out Nora Roberts. The trilogy you mentioned is at my mother's and she's always going on about it.